Should you be tithing if you are in a financial storm? By financial storm I mean that you may be facing the loss of your job and/or foreclosure on your home or maybe bankruptcy. You know, the BIG financial problems that are plaguing many families in the USA these days. Most of our politicians who are currently trying to “relate” to us have no clue what it feels like to face such desperate circumstances. I have been through a severe financial storm and can tell you that you must be prepared or you will be devastated by the destructive nature of these storms. You can loose more than your job, home, and credit rating. You could loose your life as you know it.
Our Story
My wife Sherry and I both were working when we got married. We bought two cars (on credit)1, our first house that we could only afford on two incomes2, and all the fixings that go along with being a first time home owner. The fixings were fairly big ticket items mostly purchased on credit3. These were things like window coverings, lawn equipment, refrigerator, freezer, lawn furniture, etc, etc.
Then we had our first child and decided that Sherry should stay home with Riley. We did not fully understand back then why God had put it on our hearts to have Sherry switch from being a full-time public school teacher to being a full-time mom, but that is a story for another day. From a financial perspective this was a very bad decision because we could not afford to live on a single income 4. We initially made up for the nearly $30K per year of lost income by cashing in some 401k accounts and paying for even more stuff on credit that we could not afford5,6. Then I took a job that paid more via the over-time that came with some required travel. The over-time pretty much made up for the remainder of the lost income and we got into a comfort7 zone with our household budget that as I said “required the over-time” to stay out of the red.
To this point I have noted and marked more than a half dozen major mistakes in our financial planning that would not be fully exploited until we hit our first real financial emergency. Never mind the fact that we had a zero balance in our savings account at that time. This emergency would not cost us a significant amount of money out of pocket, but the emergency would shed light into the dark corner of our finances that we did not even realize existed up until that point. The emergency caused us to fall back on my base salary for a period of nearly seven months.
So how big of a deal could it be to miss some over-time for a few months? We were in need of approximately $500 of over-time pay per month to maintain our bills. Our bills included more than $500 per month in minimum payments on credit card payments plus two cars that totaled another $770 per month. To boot, we were upside down on both cars and could not sell either because we did not have the cash to pay off the balance of the loan even if we could find a buyer at a fair market price.
The emergency we faced was the care requirements of our second child Caden. He was born with some severe medical conditions that we still battle to this day nearly four years later. As recently as last week he had another open-heart surgery. His medical conditions did not really cost us anything directly. The indirect related expenses were that we ate out more during his extended hospital stays and spent more on gas going to and from the hospital (100 miles round trip per day between MrsOzz and I), but that was about it. Caden’s genetic birth defect qualified him for Medicaid so that as a secondary insurance paid for all the deductibles and co-pays that my employer provided insurances did not cover. This particular Medicaid program (TEFRA - Katie Beckett) was designed to help families with children who are disabled under SSI (Social Security Income) standards, but do not qualify for SSI or regular Medicaid due to assets and income. This program helps families like ours avoid bankruptcy when the deductibles and co-pays reach well into the tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars.
So far I have described the climate before the financial storm and pretty well defined the make-up of the storm. While Caden’s birth did not cause our problems, his birth certainly exposed some VERY bad decisions we had been making in the previous four years working up to his birth. Our total financial damage can be described by saying that it would have taken $10,000 cash just to get us current on our bills at one point. We were 30-60 days behind on everything including our home. Not only that, I would have needed to have the opportunity to begin making the same amount of overtime again just to continue to make minimum monthly payments on our home, cars, and $60K worth of credit card debt if by some miracle we could round up $10k to get us current on everything.
What about tithing?
Tithing is a very touchy subject that I will not try to justify with a ton of scriptures. While there are plenty of biblical references on finances, they are best digested first hand. If you have never read the Bible and are in a financial storm, then you picked a perfect time to start. God does some of his best work on those in need. Sherry and I not only began reading the bible regularly within the year after Caden was born, but also went seeking advice on our finances. We enrolled in a Crown Financial class. We then peppered what we learned from that class with principles taught by Dave Ramsey who credits Crown founder Larry Burkett as a source of some of his principles.
So there we were in a pretty big storm. Each month, some lenders were not getting paid because we were about $500 short on breaking even on our bills without overtime. At that point in our life we were not tithing because we could not afford it. Most would say that is exactly how they would have been viewing tithing. It was not required to maintain life as we knew it so it should not have been in our “expenses”. Tithe was not included in our expenses then and it would never be in our expenses in the future. More on that in a minute.
It was in the middle of this storm that we finally come to the realization that what we had possession of was not really ours. We learned from reading the bible that God made every single thing that we could detect with our senses so why were we holding so tightly to it all like it was ours? Could we take it with us when we died? Were we ever going to reach the “richest man alive” status and be remembered in the history books for our wealth and possessions? Even if we did, would it matter in eternity? We could not come up with answers to any of these types of questions that justified our continuing to act like we actually owned anything on this earth. God owns it all and we are just here to take care of it, to be stewards.
In late 2005, about one year after Caden’s birth, we decided to begin tithing. We had heard our pastor say along with many others who said similar things, “If you want God to help you with your finances then you are going to have to get him involved in your finances.” So what does that really mean? To us that meant tithing. I don’t want to stir an argument, but we do make a distinction between tithing, gifts, donated time, and charity. I realize that many people don’t see it that way, but they have a right to be wrong. That is another borrowed phrase from our pastor. I mentioned before that our tithe is not part of our “expenses” and it never would be. Below is an illustration of how we include tithe in our budget spreadsheet.
Income
Salary NET (Net amount of salary)
Carry-over (Add Balance from last pay period)
Deposits (Add Misc income from Internet)
Tithe (deduct tithe based on gross pay before taxes, insurance)
NOT CLEAR (deduct Checks/debits not yet cleared)
TOTAL Income
Expenses
Mortgage
Utilities
Groceries
Car payment
Car Insurance
Car Gas/Maint
Credit
Student Loan
Phone/Internet
Cell Phone
Childcare
Entertainment
Savings
Gifts
Charity
Total Out (total expenses)
Balance (Total Income - Total Out)
You will notice that tithe is a factor in our income and not our expenses. We now treat tithing as a necessity to the income of our budget. We have come to a point of enjoying the tithe check as much as the pay check. We have always had tithe at the top our budget list, but up until the fall of 2005 we just treated tithe like and expense and most often like it was at the bottom of our priorities with charity and gifts. This is a common theme I see with many Christian families that I talk to about finances.
We got to a point in late 2005 where one or more bills was not going to get paid each month to the tune of $500 per month. If we started tithing right off the top then that would just mean one or two more bills would end up falling off the bottom of our budget. Since we saw no way out with an almost certain foreclosure, repossession, charge offs, and/or possible bankruptcy if we could not get out from under the house and at least one car payment, what would it hurt to give God a shot at our finances? The first few months were just like I said above. A few more bills fell off the bottom and the mortgage got even farther behind. It was not until we finally staked the sign in front of our house that we saw things begin to turn. Sherry and I believe to this day that we were still holding on to the house as “ours” even after the above change in attitude on tithing.
It was at this time that God showed up in a BIG way. It was to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars in one year. I won’t go too deep into the details, but there is no other explanation to this day as to why things happened how and when they did to allow us to be where we are today financially. We are in the same house driving the same two cars (one already paid off) and we will have all our credit cards, student loan, and car loan debt paid off by next fall. That has all been done without “settling with the lender” on a single debt and by paying every dime we owe to our lenders.
Attitude on Tithing
It is best if you get the right attitude on tithing from the start. My suggestions are as follows:
- Tithe as an act of worship (enjoy it)
- Tithe to your local church
- Tithe based on gross of all increase
I will add a few notes just to clarify these points. First you must not see tithing as simple a must do act but rather an enjoyable act of worship. God does not need your money and you can not buy His love. Second you should tithe to your local church. Don’t have a church? Then that is another problem we can address in another post so just pick one to tithe to for now. Last but not least, you should not have to ask whether to tithe on gross or net income. If you have to ask the gross/net question then you did not get the first point about enjoying tithing.
In conclusion I will just say that the answer to the title quesiton is not for me to give you, but I can at least share with you how it has works for us. I don’t think that tithing in itself will fix your problems financially or otherwise, but if it grows your trust in letting God handle your problems then you will come out a winner in the end.
This post was inspired partially by JD over at Get Rich Slowly. His post titled Could Tithing Lead Some Americans to Lose Their Homes? has some great comments that validate my claims on the attitudes of many Chrisitians on this subject. Sherry and I enjoy sharing our testimony on finances and have been planning on writing this post for some time now. I will share some specifics on our financial blessings in the future.